Page 22 Something EXTRA April, 1981
Silver Linings
By Terri Andersen
Spring being Mother Nature's favored Season, when a young man’s fancy Supposedly turns to thoughts of love—and Mother Nature Supposedly being given the female connotation because of her unpredictability—I thought it might be a good idea to give the season's enamored young men a glimpse into the inner workings of the female of the species. - Like Mother Nature, a feminine creatures can be very unpredictable. Tell a woman how terrific she looks, and she'll point out the blemish on her chin or the spots in her outfit. Don’t tell her how terrific looks, and either She'll come right out and ask, “Don’t you like the way I look?” Then she is asking for a comment from you on her appearance. Tell her what a great meal she prepared, and she'll tell you the sauce could have been thicker or the meat more tender. Don't tell her what a great meal she prepared and she'll either fish for a compliment or tell you herself what a good meal that was and how hard she worked to prepare it. (P.S. Take my word for it—she likes to be complimented even if she does make excuses.) Brag about her in public, and she'll shyly demure and act embarrassed. Don't brag about her, and she'll manage to notify those present of her accomplishments herself, wishing that you had done it for her. Depend on her to attend to all your needs, and she'll feel put upon and wonder why you can't do some things for yourself. Do everything for yourself, and she’ll feel unneeded. Don't give her any independence, and she'll be infuriated with your chauvinistic attitude. See her as a Self-sufficient Woman, and she'll wonder why you never pamper her. Let her do all the work in the house, and she'll resent it that you don't help her. Help her with some of the chores, and she'll probably redo them because she didn't like the way you did them. (Some unpredictables are cured only by time and patience.)
Tell her you just can't take to a certain female friend of hers, and She'll defend that friend with a litany of said friend's virtues. Take to a friend of hers too enthusiastically, and she'll suddenly find reasons not to see too much of that particular friend, at least not when you're around.
Remember, a Woman Wants to be number one in her man's life...not so much number one where other Women are concerned. She may be well aware that another woman is prettier, or smarter, or whatever, but she doesn’t want to hear the comparison from her man. Another thing to remember is that a woman wants to be understood. If she's trying to do something noble, try to recognize it for what it is, That reminds me of all the times I ate the wings whenever we had chicken, because I knew no one else in the family liked them, and I didn't want them to go to waste. So what happens when we go to a party and there's a platter of chicken breasts and a few wings? I sit there dumbfounded as I hear my husband tell the others, “Save the wings for my wife, that's the only part of the chicken she likes.” Another rule to remember is; never humiliate a woman, especially in public. Her feelings are very sensitive and even after she lives down the humiliation, the thought of it will lie buried somewhere in her subconscious and surface when you least expect it. A kind word will get you S0 much further than a humiliating one.
And don't forget to keep in touch...literally, that is. A little hand-holding and a little hugging go a long way in cementing a relationship. Okay, men of the world, got that now? A woman wants to be loved, cherished, admired, number one in her partner's heart, appreciated, understood, given equal rights, praised, needed, etc., etc. Which really is what a man wants in his life, too, isn't it?
So what it all boils down to is the Golden Rule of treating the opposite sex the way you'd like to be treated yourself, and the relationship should sail along smoothly through the rest of the seasons of the year.
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